Don’t Accept the Monkey
Conflict is not always bad. Conflict is simply part of everyday life. People don’t want to tell someone “no” because for many reasons, – they want to feel liked; they want a sense of being included or part of a team, they want to feel indispensable, or they fear the ensuing conflict that comes from rejecting someone or something because they don’t know how to manage it, is a positive manner.
The understanding will come from knowing the difference in your audience and how to respond accordingly. By adapting your response to the situation, as a chameleon changes colors, you will be able to weave your path without adding any drama or “Monkeys.”
One could say I started life in conflict before I could even understand it. My mother was a single mom in the 1960s, and to have a child out of wedlock was taboo, so my grandmother stepped in to raise me until my mom could get her feet on the ground, and we could be a “family.” I grew up modestly in a trailer park, and although we weren’t living in the best of circumstances, we survived. Often though, we moved to new locations. With the many moves we had, I was always the “new kid.” I learned that to adjust, and I needed to adapt quickly to my new surroundings. To do this, I needed to be comfortable in any setting. I used to practice being a disc jockey, or an evening news anchor in the mirror and realizing that I just needed to be myself, I could do it. Well, it took some time, and I was very nervous, but after several tries, and by the sixth grade, I was able to communicate with anyone.
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